The Good Life

Where life feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside

Hey there Reader,

There’s a particular kind of magic in doing something new with someone you’ve known for over a decade.

This week, Ben and I drove cross-country to drop our motorhome off for repairs. On the way, we stayed in a quiet lakeside town and found a dog-friendly spot where we could eat at a table right on the water, the sun setting behind the hills.

We laughed.
We talked about places we’ve been, and places we still want to go.
And as I watched the sky shift, I found myself thinking about the sunsets we’ve seen together, and the ones still to come.

It was one of those quiet but powerful moments of appreciation for being with someone who knows my history, my edges, and my at-times out-of-control menopausal rhythms—and still loves the moment, and still dreams with me about the future.

That experience reminded me of something from this month’s Book Club read, Life in Three Dimensions:

“…the typical decline in marital satisfaction over the course of a marriage is due in part to this lack of new opportunities to expand the self, and that engagement in novel activities could provide further opportunities for self-expansion. In this way, couples can experience ‘continuous rejuvenation.’”

That dinner wasn’t a grand gesture. But it was a new experience. And in that small newness, we reconnected—not just with each other, but with something bigger.

It’s not always about large-scale reinvention.
Sometimes, we just need to warm up the old parts of ourselves and see them through new eyes.

As another passage in the book shared, a Japanese proverb puts it perfectly:
“Warm the old, then you will learn something new.”

Whether it’s in marriage, in work, or in your relationship with yourself—there’s often more to discover right where you are.

🔧 Tool to try

Revisit something old—intentionally

Choose one of the following:

Listen to a song you loved 10 years ago
Walk through a place that used to mean something to you
Re-watch a favorite movie or reread a favorite book
Ask your partner an old question with fresh ears

Notice what’s still true.
Notice what feels different. Let it teach you something new.

🖋️ Something to consider

What part of your life might be waiting to be warmed—
not replaced?

📖 Club Corner

Wrapping up this month—and what’s next.

This month, Life in Three Dimensions reminded us that growth isn’t always about change—it’s about perspective. Even our most familiar stories can open up when we’re willing to revisit them.

Next month, we’re reading Let Them by Mel Robbins—a book about staying in your lane and reclaiming your energy.

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