Hey there Reader,
A while back, I experimented with something I thought would be both efficient and empowering: “If it’s not a F*ck Yes, it’s a Hell No.”
You’ve probably heard the phrase before. It’s meant to protect your time, cut the noise, and keep you aligned with what really matters. And it kinda worked.
But here’s what I kept bumping up against:
Sometimes the most important things don’t start as a F*ck Yes.
Sometimes they’re a “maybe.” A “should I?” An “ugh, I’m too tired but fine.”
​Sometimes they’re even a “this might be a terrible idea, but let’s do it anyway.”
And sometimes—those are the exact moments that shape us.
We are lousy at making accurate predictions.
We don’t always know what will bring us joy, satisfaction, or meaning—and sometimes the things we think will bring us those things... don’t.
(Just ask me about my first two marriages.)
This month, we’re moving into a new Book Club read—Let Them by Mel Robbins.
But I’m still sitting with what I took from April’s Life in Three Dimensions by Shigehiro Oishi.
“When [Steve Jobs] was nineteen, he went to India, spending seven months in search of a guru and spiritual enlightenment. He was unable to find enlightenment in India. Instead, he got dysentery and lost 40 pounds in a week.”
That’s real life.
And honestly, that’s what I’m taking with me after reading Oishi’s work.
We don’t know what an experience will give us—not really.
Sometimes the most meaningful parts of our lives begin in discomfort, doubt, or detour—in something we might have ignored if we were clinging too tightly to the “F*ck Yes” concept.
🔧 Tool to try
Permission to say “yes” without certainty
This week, when you’re unsure, ask yourself:
- Am I curious about what this might teach me—even if it’s not fun?
- Could this stretch me in a way I won’t fully understand yet?
- Is it okay if this isn’t a F*ck Yes—but maybe a part of a rich life?
🖋️ Something to consider
What are you saying “no” to—not because it’s wrong for you, but because it doesn’t look like joy yet?
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What we’re reading this month
In May, we’re diving into Let Them by Mel Robbins—a invitation to stop trying to control what others think, feel, or do, and instead reclaim our own energy and boundaries.
It’s not always a comfortable read. But it might be exactly the one we need.
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Until next week,
Kate Campion
P.S. Not everything has to be a Hell Yes. Sometimes, “Why not?” is where the magic starts.