Hey there Reader,
This week’s quote from Let Them by Mel Robbins got me thinking:
“Here's the truth: no one wants to feel pressured by their friends, family, or loved ones. What you want is unconditional love, acceptance, kindness, and compassion. You don't want to be controlled; you want to feel deeply accepted for who you are, and where you are in your life. That's what allows you to truly be yourself and feel safe in your relationships.”
It’s one of those truths that’s so obvious we almost miss it.
Because most of us say we love our people unconditionally, but our words and actions often suggest that our love would feel easier if they would just...
- stop running late
- pick up their piles of clothes off the floor
- lose some weight
- do things how we would do them
- meet our needs in the exact way we want them met.
And when we’re on the receiving end of that?
Even the smallest hint of pressure or judgment doesn’t feel good.
It makes us tense up. Go small. Perform.
Go figure.
A fulfilling relationship isn’t built on conditions. It’s built on acceptance.
Acceptance of them. Acceptance of you.
Even if you’re both still figuring it out.
🔧 Tool to try:
A relationship reflection prompt
This week, notice a moment when someone close to you frustrates or disappoints you—then pause and ask:
- Am I reacting to a real problem—or just to the fact they’re not meeting my preferences?
- Am I showing acceptance—or asking for performance?
Then flip it:
Where in your life do you most long to feel accepted as you are?
🖋️ Something to consider
Unspoken pressure is still pressure.
Real love feels like room to breathe.
📖 Club Corner – Week 3
What’s landing from this month’s read
In Let Them, Mel Robbins reminds us that love rooted in control isn't really love—it’s fear.
And it’s exhausting.
This week, I’m thinking about what it means to love without trying to shape the people around me.
Let them leave the towel on the floor.
Let them be late.
Let them feel what they feel.
That’s not giving up on connection.
That’s what makes connection real.
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Until next week,
Kate Campion
P.S. You deserve relationships where you can be fully yourself—and so do they.