Hey there Reader,
This week, I’ve been sitting with a powerful reminder from Let Them by Mel Robbins:
“We all have an innate desire to control everything about our lives: our time, our thoughts, our actions, our environment, our plans, our future, our decisions, and our surroundings. Feeling in control makes you feel comfortable and safe, so naturally you try and control everyone and everything around you—oftentimes, without even realizing it. But the fact is, there is one thing you will never be able to control. No matter how hard you try, you'll never be able to control or change another person.”
If you’re familiar with Positive Intelligence®, this control pattern might sound very familiar.
It’s the hallmark of the Controller saboteur—the part of you that tries to steer everything, manage everyone, and push life into a plan so you can feel safe.
Sometimes it sounds like strength.
Sometimes it even looks like leadership.
But underneath, it’s fear: the fear that if you don’t control things, they’ll fall apart—or you will.
And the truth is, just like Mel says: you can’t control other people.
You can influence, invite, and inspire.
You can manage your own energy, your own boundaries, your own choices.
But when it comes to other people?
You have to let them.
🔧 Tool to try
A 3-minute coaching question for this week:
Where am I spending energy trying to control someone else’s behavior, thoughts, or feelings—and what would it feel like to just let them?
Notice where the tension sits.
Notice where the release might live.
🖋️ Something to consider
What if the thing you’re trying to control isn’t the real problem?
What if it’s the need to control that’s exhausting you?
đź“– Club Corner
This month in The Good Life Book Club…
We’re diving into Let Them by Mel Robbins—an invitation to release the exhausting habit of trying to manage other people’s reactions, choices, and lives.
If you’re feeling the weight of trying to keep it all together for everyone else, this one’s for you.
(And yes—it's uncomfortable at first. That’s normal.)
👉 Click to join the Book Club here (it's free).
You’ll receive a monthly reading guide, weekly reflections, and a gentle end-of-month worksheet to help you turn insight into action. No pressure, just meaningful progress—at your own pace.
đź’› Step into more
If you’re tired of carrying control, perfectionism, or invisible pressure... coaching can help.
You don’t have to carry this alone.
And you don’t have to keep gripping the wheel to be safe, strong, or successful.
Until next week,
Kate Campion
P.S. Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is let go—and trust yourself to meet whatever comes next.