Hey there Reader,
I realised recently that I had slipped back into a morning pattern that was quietly setting the tone for my whole day — and not in a good way. Before I was even properly awake, I was doing two things: checking my blog earnings and weighing myself.
It sounds harmless. It never was.
Both of those habits pulled me straight into some version of scarcity, comparison, or “not enough yet.” I hadn’t even taken a conscious breath, and my nervous system was already negotiating with reality. That tiny spiral downward was starting before I had even arrived in my body.
So I made a decision.
Those first few minutes, when the mind is still soft and sleepy, would no longer be used for measurement. Instead, they would be used for memory. Specifically, I lie there and remember five real moments from the day before that I’m grateful for, like a felt replay.
This, I’ve realised, is my version of gratitude. It works. It’s not about making a list. It’s about re-embodying what was good and inviting more of that in.
And it feels like a much better way to begin a day.
🔬Tiny experiment
Before you get out of bed tomorrow, resist the urge to check anything. Instead, recall five specific moments from yesterday that you are glad happened. Not a list. A replay.
Notice what shifts in your state when you begin from memory rather than measurement.
đź“ť Journal prompt
What are the first questions you tend to ask the day the moment you wake? Are they about pressure, performance, or self-monitoring? Or do they help you feel grounded, connected, and well?
If they are not helping — what kind of question would?
đź’Ś Reader reflections: Your experiments, your insights
Have you noticed how your day feels different depending on what your mind touches first? Did you experiment with memory instead of measurement this week?
Hit reply and tell me what you found. I may share your reflection (anonymously if you prefer) in a future newsletter so we can keep learning together.
đź“š Club corner
This is our final week exploring Radical Listening — not only to others, but to ourselves. This practice is one of the simplest ways to do that. It reminds us that our attention is not neutral: it shapes our inner reality before the world even begins to speak back.
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